I can’t imagine what it would be without a father figure within my life. This isn’t something I have experienced but from what I know it’s not easy on a growing boy. He needs a dad in his life. There should be a bond between the father and his son.
Today it’s not about that bonding between a father and a son, but it’s about the attitude towards the father’s children.
This is based on a true story but I hope it will open the eyes of many. What is the father responsible in raising a child. It’s to be supportive to them and to love and care for them. For many in the world this isn’t the case. A friend has a father who was really abusive to him.
The abuse can be classified in two or three categories. First it was physical abuse, second emotional abuse, third it left him to have low self-esteem. How could a father be so cruel to their own children.. I am not going to say what happened in the course of him growing up but it did make him not trust anybody. He always said good thing I didn’t have a child.
An abusive father can leave a child with mental and emotional scars. Growing up in the 70’s nobody thought any different about an abusive father. They just took it and kept going as if nothing ever happened.
Do fathers know how it really hurts a child when they are physically abusive and verbally abusive. Saying things like you need to grow up, you need to be better looking. Those negative information given to the child over a long period of time will bring some insecurities.
Those insecurities could carry over into adulthood and that person could see the world different from the rest. The emotional scars could impact the child’s social skills and motivation to learn.
Most of this isn’t talked about in the main media. Today I want to inform others about the dangers if a child being raised by an abusive father and leaving his child to have resentment against both his father or mother.
Some fathers are so busy they don’t spend time with their child. They don’t encourage them, always putting them down. The father also criticizes their child in a negative way, to the point he or she feels bad and thinks of themselves as being worthless.
How would they understand the love of God if they never experienced the true love from their father. We grow up in a world, where we think everyone had or has a loving father, but it’s not the case anymore for some people.
God’s love is real. He cares for all of us. He doesn’t see you as a misfit, he created you in his own image. He wants all of us to love on him and to have a personal relationship. It’s personal experience between God and man. Yet those who grew up in this world with a deadbeat dad it could be hard for them to understand the ways of God.
The ways of God are holy and pure. He gave Jesus Christ his son, so we could live a life unto him. Not in a down and out way. In a way that is real, refresh and alive. He wants us to love on him and praise his name. God is the Almighty God. He created, he loves and cares for us all.
The key in understanding all of this is the effect a father has on his child. Not showing love to his child can put the child in danger as he grows.
Tomorrow looking at the father as a negative role model by this action. Not the physical aspect but the behavior of the father.
If you ever or know someone who has been abused in any way call your local agency to get the help you need. Just know God cares and loves you. He won’t let you down. Trust God and find a better way of living your life. Not unto the evil things of this world but in God’s light and truth.
Givinhope Evangelistic Ministry with minister John Corum
Givin H.O.P.E. Ministry of Evangelism 